Dennis Neder

The Older Woman

Hey Doc: I'm 21 years old and this girl that I've been talking to is turning 28 pretty soon. This girl has been really down on the dumps with personal problems, losing family members, etc. and we've been keeping each other "company" if you will. I ... Read >

Do You Think She Likes Me?

Hi there, I'm 18 years old and I can't seem to get any friendly advice from anyone about this girl I like so maybe you can help me out! I met a girl over at the local community college this past week, and I can already tell that I'm developing a major... Read >

Dealing With the Fear of Rejection

As men, we know that it's our job to do the initial approach, to get phone numbers and/or email addresses, to set-up dates, to convert to sex, to begin relationships, etc. It's not that women can't do these things, (and in fact, I recommend that women ... Read >

Marriage and Religion

Good afternoon Dr. Neder, I have a girlfriend and she and I are in love. Almost everything is perfect – almost. We would really like to get married soon but there is a very subtle and fragile thing that seems to hinder the relationship and seeks to de... Read >

She's Commitment Phobic

Hi, I've been dating a woman for over 3 years. We're both in our mid- to late-20's and live in different states. We've planned to move in together 5 times. The first time, she backed out the day before we were supposed to sign a lease. The second time,... Read >

Just How Does A Guy Meet A Girl, Anyway?

Hello Doc: I've never really known much of anything about dating. I'm 26 years old and I've never had a serious relationship. I feel like I've missed out on a lot of knowledge over the years and I feel like I'm sunk. Where can I go to meet people? H... Read >

Talk is Cheap – Learn to Do It Right!

Dear Dr. Neder, I saw your articles on the Internet and was hoping that you would give me some advice. My ex-boyfriend broke up with me almost five months ago. He and I were friends for a few years before we dated, and we dated for about 11 months. Wha... Read >

The Guy That Wants to Get Married

Dear Dr. Dennis: I'm a 28-year-old guy and I've been working on my career for the past 5 years and have done pretty well for myself. I've decided that the next step in my life is to get married. Do you have any suggestions as to how I should get starte... Read >

Sexless Relationship, Missing Boyfriend

Dear Dennis, I met this incredible guy 6 months ago. He and I have much in common; we both work two jobs and I have two small children. Needless to say, our time is limited. We have not had sex yet because, (mostly by his request), we wanted to really ... Read >

How Women Can Approach Men

Aloha Dr. Neder: I just read your article, "Men: Learn how to be Approached" and found very it to be very enlighten. I would appreciate your advice on this subject: What should I do after I give all the right signals to approach me and he still does... Read >

Getting Past Your Past

Dr. Neder, I came across your articles on the Internet and thought I'd write for some advice. The short story is this: I was sexually abused throughout most of my younger years. Now, as I start to cope with this as a 32 year old man, I have found a 2... Read >

Dating Rights Verse Dating Responsibilities

Hello Dennis, You have always been very helpful to me in the past and I was wondering if you could help me out with this situation I've encountered. My girlfriend smoked cigarettes for over 10 years but stopped. When we started dating I made it clea... Read >

Find What Makes You Happy

Hi I recently came across your article on "sabotaging relationships" through an Internet search and I really found it helpful. I'm writing to you because of my current situation. I am 31 years old and have grown up in a very religious community. Every... Read >

I Don't Want to Look Like an Idiot!

Hey Doc! I work with this girl I really like and I talk to her every time we have a chance. She is the reason why I still stay at my job. She is funny and she makes me have a fun time whenever we work together, but I don't know if she likes me. Firs... Read >

Moving On and Knowing That You've Moved On

I really am in need of some real help I am a 19 year old man Last year I moved away from my first love who I dated for a year. I don't believe that I ever got over her. I went through a great deal of pain and grieved so much but I'm finding it tough t... Read >